cre8Buzz > People > Women > emery jo > emery jo's cre8Buzz Blog > Help! I've started a BLOG SCANDAL and I can't get out!
Have any of you inadvertently (or, maybe um... advertently? Is this even a word?) started some drama or scandal on your blog that involved people that YOU KNOW in real life and actually SEE from time to time?
Oh holy hell I think I've done just that. On my blog. ON ACCIDENT, I swear!
I am a very non-confrontational person. I don't believe in drama. So, I find that I am completely unprepared now that I've accidentally caused some drama of my own. I edited the offending post to remove this person's band name. Long story short: I did not like their music. Or the way they handcuffed my husband to a briefcase full of doughnuts. And now they are pissed.
Do I need to do more? Remove the post entirely?
This is a person that I see maybe once every couple/few months. We are not close. We've only talked a couple of times. But still, they are AROUND.
What do you think?
Is your blog a place where you feel it is your right to say whatever you are thinking- to tell it like it is- no matter WHO might be reading along?
Or, do you feel the need to hold certain experiences and stories back for fear of someone finding your post and becoming personally offended by your experience that involved them in some way?
Recent Comments
sjoukes said (7 months ago)
nice to meet you too...and I agree with AndreaJune... you havn't said anything teeeeerible..and also you don't have to like their music...they should deal with it
PandoraWilde said (9 months ago)
I hold back sometimes--my ground rules are no family dramas, no real names, very little about my daughter (due to freaks and creeps, otherwise I'd be bragging all day long) and nothing about the gentleman I take care of (to preserve his right to privacy). However, if someone had handcuffed my man to anything, there'd be some hell-raising on my blog. I wouldn't have held back and I wouldn't pull a single word if it were found. Then again, my blog's always been my place to rant and vent--started out that way during a few years before I broke my engagement and moved home, and these days it's part rant, part art (I'm a soapmaker) and part "What the heck's the world coming to?" Oh, and hi--nice to meetcha now that I've hijacked your comments. (Sorry about that)
Missives From Suburbia said (9 months ago)
*sigh* I hold back. I have some AWESOME stories about my family that I'd love to write, but they all read my blog. I think I might start using my Buzz blog to write about them. EEEEKKKK!!
Mr Lady said (10 months ago)
I LOVED that post! This is precisely why no one I know read my blog or even knows it exists. I have not one bit of advice for you, but to say that your post was good, well written, kinda funny, and you have nothing to feel badly about. Of course, it wasn't about MY band, so that makes it easier. For me, at least. :)
Demain66 said (11 months ago)
I can't say that I hold back, but I weigh the possibilities before posting. It's not the words but the intent behind the words. I mean, if I ran across a post that was about me, it would depend on whether it was a vicious, libelous attack (((Like when "She Who Shall Remain Nameless" emailed everyone back in '98 about the little "premature" incident. Hey! Hey! Maybe I just wanted the date to be over, Lisa! Yeah! Maybe I just didn't think you were worth the time or the effort! Yeah!!!))) Otherwise, I may be informed of something that I was previously unaware of. You can flip the situation around and see if it's one of those "hey, your fly is open" kind of circumstance, where the person might be better off knowing what other's perceptions of them are.
Brillig said (11 months ago)
I definitely hold back sometimes, and I hate that I feel like I have to. I write anonymously, but too many people know me in real life now and I feel like I can't step on toes or tell a story that's different from how they choose to remember it or whatever. And yes, I've had scandal at my site before. Some thrive on scandals. If they involve me or my loved ones, I run away from them.
AndreaJune said (11 months ago)
I don't think that this was an instance where it was necessary to hold back. All the events that transpired were in a public place, and it's not exactly a secret that said band likes to handcuff people to a briefcase full of Krispy Kremes. So what the heck is their problem? Are they offended that you shared your frustration with their very public actions that could have completely ruined your night out? Or are they ashamed of their actions in the first place? Bottom line: it's your blog and your feelings. Without those emotions so artfully transposed into an electronic space, it wouldn't be the same. Don't hold back, Em, it's your honesty that makes your blog so darned good.
Sprite said (12 months ago)
I'm way too late responding to this but I have to say, it's your turf and you upset them then they need to fix their music and take their practical jokes elsewhere! Nice to meet you, finally. I passing by you on the fly and had to put the brakes on when I saw the panic! I worry about it too but Dan is right, we spend waaaaaay too much time pulling back what we really think for the fear of retribution. You already fixed the name, enough! I gotta go check this out! Hee hee hee! (joking)
danleone said (12 months ago)
If my opinion matters, it is ultimately your blog and you can do whatever you want....as long as you understand that you may step on toes or bruise some personalities. Unfortunately, on my blog, I spend WAAAAAYYYY too much time "pulling back" that I can certainly admire you for expressing your opinions. I wish you the best.
Misssy M said (about 1 year ago)
Personally I think Publish and be damned is the only way to go. They've seen it now- front it out. Leave it as it is and learn to embrace your new reputation!
sunshine said (about 1 year ago)
This is something I struggle with to a smaller degree. It's my family that reads my blog so I have to be careful what I write at times and sometimes I can't really write what i do want to write. I just wouldn't want to hurt their feelings. But it's family and acquaintances as in your situation. I think it would depend on how well I knew them and how much I wanted to protect any kind of relationship. If I didn't know them that well, I would probably use their first initial and go ahead and write what I wanted to.
TheBitterQueen said (about 1 year ago)
It's all about personal choice. Do what you are comfortable with. My personal opinion is if it is truth, then it is blogable. <-- is that a word? If it is truth they shouldn't get mad. If they have a problem with people reading about something they did, well then they probaby shouldn't have done it in the first place! Something as simple as your opinion on music is your right to express. They can't expect everyone to like their music, not even people they know. I generally try to change the names in posts so that anyone not involved doesn't know who it REALLY is about anyway.
Candace said (about 1 year ago)
I hold back a bit. I try and indirectly express myself sometimes! but cre8buzz is good to rip whoever you want a new one. sounds like these jerks deserved a good bloggin' though!
AzhriaLilu said (about 1 year ago)
I don't hold back.. but then everything I say in my blog that relates to people I know - they know I would say to their face (and probably have already done so before typing it!)
Secret Agent Mama said (about 1 year ago)
I used to hold back but my major rule is: If I can say it to your face, I can say it in my blog. That's pretty much my "rule of thumb", anyway.
averygray said (about 1 year ago)
If it was someone I was very close to, I wouldn't complain about them. That could be awkward. But if you only see these people every once in awhile, I don't think it's that big of a deal. Sure, it can be uncomfortable when you do see them, but if they've done something to tick you off, maybe they should know. (This coming from someone who most definitely holds back. LOL!)
momminitup said (about 1 year ago)
ohh i DEFINITELY hold back! My mom and mother-in-law read my blog! I don't know what to tell ya. I mean, you didn't MEAN to do it, right?? Poor you!
annettelyon said (about 1 year ago)
I absolutely hold back. But then, my blog isn't a public journal, per se. I don't really chronicle my life. It's a place for potential readers of my books to find me and get to know me. I've thought about doing the Soap Opera Sunday thing, but holy moly, I'd end up with a lot of ticked people, so I just don't dare!
purplepolkadot said (about 1 year ago)
I think as long as you change the names or just use first initials you are safe from them being mad that you said personal things on the internet or whatever. I think that if you genuinely are mad about something they just have to deal because it's your own space to vent/talk about your life. Obviously some stuff does need to be left out, like personal details about people marriages and what-not, but as long as you know what you are saying is the truth then it shouldn't matter. I know what you mean about not wanting the awkwardness but you shouldn't censor yourself too much for fear of hurting someones feelings who made you mad/didn't respect your husband!
CableGirl said (about 1 year ago)
You know, now that I'm thinking about it, I guess I do hold back a bit. I mean, I started my blog as a way for my family to keep tabs on my pregnancy while I was out of the country and then to keep tabs on the baby after she was born. I've been trying to get them to stop reading, but, well, sometimes that's not so easy. I tend not to post things about any arguments DH and I might have simply because while (for some strange reason) I wouldn't mind my cyber friends knowing about it, I'd hate to have my mother or aunt or someone of that sort know we had had any difficulty. I'm rambling, but I hope that makes sense.
CableGirl said (about 1 year ago)
Aaahhhh, you know I was wondering about the handcuffs and Krispy Kremes. lol Personally, I think your blog is your place. Change the names to protect the innocent, but I don't think you should have to edit your posts to appease someone else. I wouldn't take down the post... But then again, I'm a pretty confrontational type of person...
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