How familiar is that one? We all do it. Research indicates that the average person talks to themselves about 50,000 times a day. Most of the self talk is about ones self… and according to psychological researchers, it’s about 80% negative!

Yikes!

I really started thinking about that and realized how true it really was. We live in a time, especially as women that we do spend time giving lip service to how great we are because we are supposed to… but really on the inside that nasty critic comes out all the time.

I should be a better mother (for me to my dogs!), I get bitchy, I don’t look good anymore, I don’t make enough money, every body wants me to be everything and I can’t be that. My house is dirty, my car is a mess, I look terrible in these clothes… I have a fat ass. (Right, I'm a size 5 and workout every day and I still say that)...

You know, the list goes on and on.

Argue for your limitations and sure enough, they’re yours! Can’t take credit for that statement. It was made my Richard Bach one of my many favorite authors.

Anyway, the point in this is self talk is something I have to work on every single day. But the more I work on it the easier I find it to catch myself being negative and change it. No I’m never going to be perfect. Nor do I really want to be.

I mean think about that. I’ve walked into people’s houses before where everything seemed to be absolutely perfectly put into place. And I felt like if I moved the wrong way for certain I would break something. It just plain isn’t comfortable. Or those people who never swear. Right. I’m known for the F word so that won’t be changing any time soon.

So that’s not what I’m looking for. I just think it'd be good if it becomes normal to say good things about myself to myself rather than all the negative self talk.

Who taught us to be negative anyway? And how can we change it. For me, it’s been one thought at a time.
Zelda
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